如何更具體的讚美與鼓勵孩子?

作者:善敏智創辦人

每個人都希望被肯定,孩子也一樣。然而,「讚美與鼓勵」是需要有技巧的,且具體的。若方式不當,反而會適得其反。許多國內外學者都指出,不恰當的讚美,久而久之,反而容易會使孩子容易產生驕傲、自滿的心態。那我們該如何的有具體的讚美和鼓勵孩子呢?不妨在讚美孩子前,把那些空泛的形容詞換成孩子們做了什麼,以更具體的說法,讓孩子更清楚明白為什麼他們受到了讚美。

我真以你為榮,因為你很認真的在做這件事情!I’m proud of the way you worked (today).
我知道你很盡力,很投入的做!I know you are trying your best.
繼續加油,你有在進步。Keep working on it. You’re improving.
我喜歡(欣賞)你不斷的挑戰自己。I love how you are challenging yourself.
你很棒,因為我知道分享是一件不容易的事情。You did great because I know it is hard to learn how to share.
被氣餒,你只是還沒學會而已。You don’t get it…yet!
你真是一個好幫手。You are such a great helper.
我看的出來你很努力,繼續下去。I can tell you are working hard. Keep it up!
這很困難,但我們可以一起努力去達成。This will be challenging, but all of us can reach the goal.
會犯錯代表你努力過。Mistakes are proof you are trying.
這件事情你做的真好,因為….You are so excellent at… because….
我知道你做得到,不要放棄。I know you can do it! Don’t give up!
我喜歡你幫助別人。I like how you help other people.
哇!(這件事情)___ 真令我感到驕傲。You really impressed me with that one!
我很感激你的幫忙。I appreciate your help.
想的很仔細!我喜歡你的想法。Good thinking. I like your idea.
這個方面…..你真的進步很多。You have really grown (in these areas.)
這個方法很好,繼續保持下去。Keep using your strategies! You are making good progress!
你學得很快!You are learning fast!
你越來越厲害了,你會試著自己解決問題。Fantastic problem-solving!
你越來越拿手了!You are very good at that.
這件事情你做得很好。You’re doing a great job.
你每天都有在進步。You’re getting better every day.
我聽到了你的心情,謝謝你的分享。I heard you say how you feel, that’s great.
你使它變得容易多了。You are making it easier.
很不錯,我知道這對你很難,你還很冷靜的去面對。I know that was hard for you, but you stayed so calm.
繼續努力!加油!你很有毅力。Keep up the excellent work!
你已經有好的開始!Great start!
很好,你一定練習了很多次。You must have been practicing.
繼續說,我喜歡聽聽你的想法。Keep going. I love hearing about your ideas.
你真的進步很多。That’s quite an improvement.
記得真好!Good remembering
很好!你很勇敢的表達你的想法。Excellent job saying how you feel.
我知道你很努力!I can see your hard work (in this assignment).
你變得更勇敢了!You are becoming a braver person.
我喜歡你對(事情)變得更仔細,更細心。I like how you pay attention to the details.
你看!你的努力有成效了。All of your hard work is paying off.
我對你不放棄的精神感到驕傲。I am so proud of you for not giving up!
你今天做得比以前好!You did better than before.
你還記得呢!You remembered.
再試一次,你可以做得到的!Try again! You can do it.
哇!你真有創意。You are a creative thinker.
我發現你變得更獨立了!You are becoming more independent.
我喜歡你的團隊精神Terrific teamwork!
我就知道你有辦法自己解決。I knew you could figure this out by yourself.
你真做到了!You did it!
你很會表達你的想法。You expressed yourself so well.
你很棒,你很認真的在聽別人的想法。You did great! You did listen to others.
你處理的真好!You handled that so well.
你做的真好,因為你尊重其他人。You did an awesome job of respecting others